Who are you? Really?
Wife 'didn't realise husband was a woman'
12:55pm 15th May 2006
" A transsexual whose 17-year marriage to an heiress was nullified when the wife discovered her husband was a woman is not legally a "parent" of her 14-year-old daughter born from donor sperm, the Court of Appeal ruled today.
The female-to-male transsexual, referred to in court as Mr J, is now in law a man under the 2004 Gender Recognition Act and can lawfully marry a woman if he wishes.
Mr J, born with gender dysmorphia, underwent hormone treatment and had breasts removed before, at the age of 30, he met and married Mrs C, then aged 20 and from a wealthy background.
He concealed his true gender from her for 17 years, using a home-made part of the anatomy for sex. At a Court of Appeal hearing in 1996, Mr J failed in a bid for a share of the marriage wealth, including a £400,000 home. "
This story is silly on the surface, but then I wonder: Do we truly know those who we are close to? While most of us can tell the sex of our significant others, what deeper things are they hiding? And ourselves. Who are we, really? What are you concealing that you don't want discovered? Can you truly ever know someone? Can you truly know yourself?
12:55pm 15th May 2006
" A transsexual whose 17-year marriage to an heiress was nullified when the wife discovered her husband was a woman is not legally a "parent" of her 14-year-old daughter born from donor sperm, the Court of Appeal ruled today.
The female-to-male transsexual, referred to in court as Mr J, is now in law a man under the 2004 Gender Recognition Act and can lawfully marry a woman if he wishes.
Mr J, born with gender dysmorphia, underwent hormone treatment and had breasts removed before, at the age of 30, he met and married Mrs C, then aged 20 and from a wealthy background.
He concealed his true gender from her for 17 years, using a home-made part of the anatomy for sex. At a Court of Appeal hearing in 1996, Mr J failed in a bid for a share of the marriage wealth, including a £400,000 home. "
This story is silly on the surface, but then I wonder: Do we truly know those who we are close to? While most of us can tell the sex of our significant others, what deeper things are they hiding? And ourselves. Who are we, really? What are you concealing that you don't want discovered? Can you truly ever know someone? Can you truly know yourself?
posted by Death Warmed Over | 10:08 AM
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I don't know if you read my intimacy blog, but it kind of deals with that. If we trust God, he is the only one who really knows us. When we get close to someone, they find out stuff about us that we either don't know ourselves or we'd rather hide it forever. The poser types have it really bad because so much energy goes into trying to be something you are not that you just explode in the end. I think there is something that will always be hidden, from ourselves and from each other, no matter how honest we are. I don't think we can always handle the truth.
This story is sad.
EOTR is right that we are only truly known by God.
The better someone knows us, the closer we are to them, and unfortunately the easier it is for them to hurt us. I think I walk that line alot, between letting someone in, or keeping them out for my own protection.
I also struggle with how I actually feel compared with how I "think" I am supposed to feel...which I suppose is confusing for my family.
Me smiling on the outside, and weeping on the inside.
That probably is not good...
"a HOME-MADE part of the anatomy"?!?!?!?!?!?
*shudder*
My wife knows me pretty well She can tell I'm pretty much a complete idiot
Yeah, Freshwater, I had an argument with hubby because he thinks I don't know how to load a dishwasher. Now you are all in on the big secret. But we made up and are friends again. It's when people put on the happy relationship face underneath all the garbage that the real lie goes on. And I totally agree with Mayden: those close to us can hurt us terribly. And they don't have to be romantic--friends and family can be lethal.
I think that we all keep secrets from our significant others. I have a few. And I know he does too. I think I'd rather keep it that way.
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